“Attend Your Own Lectures.” Sage Advice from Debbie Ford

I loved this quote from Debbie Ford. She’s talking about projection and how others mirror our own bad and also good ideas about life. How we might find ourselves telling others, what we need to hear most. Do you ever find yourself lecturing your kids about something, and then realize you should listen to your own advice? It makes me feel like a hypocrite – how about you? It’s always much easier to know something is right, than to do it.

She also says when we see the good in other people, we are recognizing qualities that we have been blessed with.  We have the same capacity for virtue that we admire. Yeah, us.

I’m reading her book “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.” It’s a short, but deep read dedicated to cleaning up our dark sides — looking at what we want to keep hidden in our own reflections. The words are not easy to face -– just necessary.  I’m sure this book will take me on a wild ride of ups and downs.

How free could we feel, if we unburdened those clinging, prickly webs of discomfort we’ve been dragging around for years? The obnoxious patterns that come up over and over – an echo you’ve heard, or done before. Frustration resides here, because try as we might, it takes forever to make those stubborn, reflexive re-actions disappear.

It’s no wonder, so many were formed during our first couple of years on this earth. Thanks Mom and Dad. After a lifetime of self-study, there’s still so much left to do. Our husbands and children are proficient at triggering our auto-pilot responses. Oh awareness, have thou forsaken me? Does your husband also point out – I thought you were working on that? Who’s more disappointed – him or you? Where’s the magic wand – poof? Mine seems to be broken – how’s yours?

Well it is spring, and it’s time to do more cleaning. Time to get out the vacuum and get rid of the yucky emotional baggage. Here’s to cleaning up the Darth Vader in all of us. As Eckhart Tolle said, “Life is an adventure it’s not a package tour.”  I invite you to Join Me On My Journey…

 

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